These are a few things that you shouldn’t do. (Mistakes that people do that i should learn from)

1. MUST NOT intrude people’s issue, despite the fact that you are that person’s mother, father, sister, brother, grandmother or best friend, for that really matters. Because even if you THINK you can help to fix their issue, it’s their own shit that they have to clean. Not your’s. So tak payah be the hero in the situation, please?

2. To CLAIM that you’re not at any side, kononnya neutral lah. It’s so obvious that you’ve chosen your party when you only listen to one side of the story. 

3. To rub into an issue which is already bad on it’s on. Specifically, to make assumptions based on the assumption that one has made, it’s just as good as fucking a pregnant girl. 

4. Saying you’re concerned because you care. STOP CARING. You are only making things a lot worse. Refer number 1.

5. Giving so-called opinions on one’s assumption. Given that your opinions are absofuckinglutely wrong, it might just worsen the situation. Because in this case, you’re making one party think of the unthinkable. 

6. DO NOT propose a solution. If you’re really trying to be nice, JUST LISTEN. Do not agree or oppose. Let them clean their own mess. How many times do i have to repeat this?!

7. Listening to only one side and give sarcastic statements to the other side (kau memang bodoh, what the hell were you thinking?). If you assume that your sarcasm to the other party might make a difference, you assume wrong! 

8. Trying to dig dirt from one party that you think should be useful for the other party. Seriously, you should really learn to mind your own fucking business.